Minisode: There are Helpers

By October 25, 2017 June 27th, 2018 No Comments
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Hey there, thanks for joining me here on The Dealer Playbook Podcast Minisode – and for sticking with me through 8 seasons of the show. I have had an absolute blast doing this and am grateful that you’re here joining me on my mission to enrich and empower automotive professionals around the world.

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Facebook, the social platform of choice for those looking to embellish the best parts of their fake lives, post low lit photos of their desert, and my favourite — complain about absolutely everything. At a glance, it may seem that widespread evil, ego, and selfishness plague the planet, that there is nothing here worth fighting for.

Recent catastrophes such as natural disasters and senseless acts of violence and terror claim the lives of so many around the world. My heart, and prayers  go out to those whose lives are changed forever. Those who woke up in the morning filled with dreams, hopes and ambitions that, by nightfall, lost their opportunity to pursue the things they wanted so deeply.

You don’t have to go very far to learn about these things. They are all there in your newsfeed. But it’s not Facebook’s fault. Facebook is just the microphone. There’s a reason why negativity abounds. Why it takes up our newsfeed, and why we are prone to sharing it.

An article published on Psychology today in 2003 stated that the brain reacts more strongly to stimuli it deems negative. There is a greater surge in electrical activity. Thus, our attitudes are more heavily influenced by downbeat news than good news.

The articles also references the fact that this negativity bias likely stemmed from our inherent desire to stay out of harm’s way. From the dawn of human history, our very survival depended on our skill at dodging danger. The brain developed systems that would make it unavoidable for us not to notice danger and thus, hopefully, respond to it.

But here’s the question: What is all of the negativity doing to you? Is it changing you? Is it making you stronger? Is it making you weaker? Does it make you feel scared?

It seems like, in our pursuit for becoming internet famous or gaining visibility, we, along with so many others find that the best way to increase engagement online is by spreading negativity. The complaining, the political banter that always leads to an argument and online bullying, or the sharing of already widely distributed bad news drown out any inkling of positivity.

This article, which I’ll link to in the show notes, suggests that in order to find balance, positive information must outnumber negative information by 5 to 1. But because of our negativity bias, it actually requires more work on our part.

Here’s the thing, though — And this is my point: There is still SO much good in the world. There are many more good things, and good people in the world than there are bad. Mr. Rogers has an awesome quote that I recently shared on Facebook. It reads,

“When I was a boy and I would see scary things in the news, my mother would say to me, “Look for the helpers. You will always find people who are helping.”

You know my favourite Zig Ziglar Quote, “You can have everything in life you want if you will just help enough other people get what they want.”

My intention in talking about this today is not to trigger anger or spark a debate about whether or not I’m wrong. I’m simply sharing my opinion and belief that while bad things are happening and will continue to happen, there is so much more good in the world. There is so much to be grateful for, there is so much love to give, and there is so much help to be offered.

If you were to look at your facebook posts over the last year, what would you learn about yourself? Are you a broadcaster of negativity? If so, what’s your intent? OR are you a helper? If you filter through your connections, are they distributors of negativity or are they helpers?

Jim Rohn said, “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with…” We’ve all heard variations of that before.

What’s my point? There is enough going on in the world today. We owe it to ourselves to not perpetuate it by sloshing it about on Facebook.

You deserve the best things that life has to offer. You deserve to achieve your goals, dreams, and ambitions without hindrance, fear, or failure to launch. Don’t get in your own way – You are powerful, and can have a profoundly positive impact on your friends, neighbours, colleagues and acquaintance. In so doing, we change the dooming dialogue that currently ensnares us and begin to not only change, but conquer the world… together.

I’m not going to lie, I hesitated sharing this with you today. I hope you receive it with the most positive of intentions. I hope you get value from it, and that value hopefully inspires change. I am so grateful for your attention, and grateful for those of you who have positively affected my life and supported me.

Thank you for your comments and questions on Facebook. If you haven’t already done so, go join me on the Dealer Playbook facebook page and ask a question! I love hearing from you, and guess what, when you message me, I’m the guy responding back!

Thanks for joining me down this rabbit hole, don’t forget to keep the playbook open and dominate!