Episode 106 marks the return of our friend, and best-selling author, Coach Michael Burt. In typical fashion, there is no shortage of power-bombs laced with wisdom coming from the coach about how to find a mentor, and what impact that will have on your career.
Go for the Mentor before the Money
One of the biggest mistakes that people make is getting an idea and thinking, “I can make a ton of money doing this,” because it causes them to bypass crucial learning that needs to take place to grow sustainably.
Most people lack the patience needed to make something great happen. They want to start and immediately earn $80,000/year without realizing what it will take actually to do so.
There’s a term in the home-building industry called, “bad mud.” Bad Mud refers to when they put bricks together, but don’t it very well; the bricks crumble at the first sign of pressure or friction.
Because people don’t go for the mentor first, or because they weren’t inner-engineered to win (body, mind, heart, spirit or knowledge, skill, desire, confidence); they have weaknesses in their armor.
Having a mentor will help you navigate your career journey by sharing wisdom and advice. Advice that’s based on years of experience doing what they are telling you to do.
When Coach Burt considers his journey of becoming a coach, it started when he was a teenager. By 18 he was coaching basketball and developing his hypothesis about how to build great teams and how to motivate and inspire people to achieve greatness. He didn’t just get the idea to be a business coach and then figure things out or wonder why people weren’t receptive to his message.
Coach Burt put in his time to develop and grow. He did it as patiently as you will need to do it to succeed.
Stop comparing the ‘you’ of today to the ‘big dogs’ of today
It’s counter-productive to compare yourself today to Gary Vee today. Embrace the journey of becoming great, and remember that the success you see above the surface is much smaller than the challenges and obstacles Gary Vee had to overcome, or the 18 hour days, which are only visible under the surface.
Something called the Oprah Effect
Oprah Winfrey was once asked how to create the Oprah effect. Her response was fascinating.
“One person cannot create a phenomenon. All one person can do is create something so valuable, so interesting, so compelling, that people’s response to what they create, create’s the phenomenon.”
When you think about Cardone and his business model, think about going into a city and selling your tickets to an event. First, you have to get the meeting with the dealer, sell them the tickets, get them to the event, and then speak for 8 hours.”
“There were times when Cardone was so cheap on money; he couldn’t even spring $150 for a lavalier mic. That’s a brutal business model.”
Cardone followed that model for 20 years. “We’re not talking about 20 days or 2 weeks. We’re talking about a guy that ground it out for 20 years!”
How to find a mentor?
The first thing to consider is this: Are you worthy of someone taking their time and energy to mentor you? There is no shortage of people who offer lip service, asking when they can be mentored and then never show up.
To find a mentor, you need to show up and be hungry and interested. You need to be willing to do whatever it takes to learn from and be invested in what you can learn.
While in-person mentoring is the holy grail of mentoring, it’s important to be unofficially mentored with the variety of resources available to you. Whether it’s listening to podcasts, or consuming a thought-leader’s content, that information is produced to help people.
Networking events and conferences are a great way to meet people and connect with potential mentors. While it’s not necessary to formally ask, “Can you be my mentor?” (because that’s awkward), you begin to form relationships of trust with key players. Continue to develop those relationships and be available to learn whenever the knowledge arrives.
You should want to absorb your potential mentor’s content and be hungry enough to go and get it.
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